Colorless Green Ideas Unintentionally Amusing In Person
Wednesday, April 16, 2003
You know what's spooky?
When CNN.com changes their stories partway through the day. Particularly when they change the headline
Earlier today the CNN had a headline stating "Melissa Etheridge getting married" (or something to that effect—it was definitely "married" or "to marry", or something like that. Something that acknowledged the legitimacy of the planned wedding as a wedding, even though it will not be recognized by the short-sighted legal system at this time.) But at some point this morning, or early this afternoon, someone at CNN changed the headline to “Melissa Etheridge tying the knot". Presumably this change was affected because Melissa Etheridge is marrying another woman (duh), and someone complained that they couldn't really be "getting married", because they're both girls (I’m so glad someone caught that for us! I would never have figured it out on my own!). Now the only reference to the event as a wedding is a quote from Etheridge's publicity person.
What a stupid thing for someone to bitch about. And I was all pleased that CNN was being progressive.
You know what else is spooky? When you point out this headline-swapping-strangeness to your co-workers, who work with you at a relatively liberal non-profit, who (you think) you can reasonably expect to be open-minded (no one voted for Bush or holds any obviously-scary fundamentalist beliefs), and, upon discovering that Melissa Etheridge is marrying a women who is not her former partner Julie Cypher, with whom she has two children, they both complain that it was irresponsible of Melissa Etheridge and Julie Cypher to break up, because they had kids!
I’m sure that they didn’t foresee the breakup when they made the decision to have kids together, and heterosexual couples have kids and then break up all the time. Why in god’s name would it be more irresponsible of Melissa Etheridge and Julie Cypher to break up after they had kids than anyone else? I’m sure they are both still happy that they have kids, and that they both wish that they could have worked things out, but sometimes you can’t. That’s just the way it is. Gay couples break up sometimes, just like heterosexual (married and unmarried ones) do. Gay couples, however, do not generally have children by accident, and then break up and shamefully neglect their children-by-a-former-partner because they didn’t really want those kids in the first place. I bet Melissa Etheridge's kids are as well or better off than the kids of a lot of divorced/split-up hetero couples.
Really, we had quite a nice time, thank you very much for asking. We did most of the stuff we wanted to do—the Tonga Room, the Winchester Mystery House, all that—and we checked out both San Jose and San Francisco in a more psuedo-adult way (trying to figure out if we want move someplace around there sometime in the future).
And you know what?
I don’t know for sure if we do. San Francisco is really nice—I like it there, and the weather is more what we’re after. But we like Portland a lot too—and, aside from the weather, Portland really has most of what we’re looking for. I like my job, our current apartment is a whole lot cheaper than we could find anywhere else, and we have a bunch of great friends, terrific restaurants, and places we like to go here. So I don’t know—I guess at this point we’re staying here and working on minor-level career-growth. Of course, if the Oregon Shakespeare Festival offers me a job coordinating their (in my dreams) revived Exhibit Center, or someone offers me several million dollars for the popular-culture museum I would truly love to start, then we will certainly move—in a second, baby! But in the meantime, it’s good to be home, with the kitty, and know that, for now, this really is home and not just a stopping-place.